Last year, I went to a speaking engagement. It was in a small venue, a little pottery studio in Baltimore City. The four authors who were speaking were all women and three of them had their husbands there to support them. I was touched by the gentle way the men participated in the event, occasionally sharing their thoughts while at the same time holding space for their wives to shine in their event. The men seemed comfortable allowing their vulnerability and listening with intent to the discussion. It was beautiful to witness.
My husband lives in a house with three women, myself and our two teenage daughters. Through the years, he has learned more about Barbies, Disney Princesses, and American Girl Dolls than he ever imagined he would. Growing up the middle son of three boys and a part of a large group of guy friends, this world of hair products, bras and tampons is foreign to him. And yet, he carefully holds this space for us. He is supportive of all of our endeavors and nurtures us through our perimenopause and puberty induced mood swings. He is our greatest supporter and beams with pride at our strength and courage. Tony’s openness and constant gentle support are beautiful to feel.
So much has been said in recent years about the uprising of feminine energy. We see it on a global scale and we also see it in our individual lives. More and more, women are gathering together to support each other in speaking their truth. More and more the qualities of compassion, gentleness, beauty, nurturing, and intuition are being shared and honored by both men and women. We are beginning to balance the scale that was so heavily tipped in the favor of masculine energy for so very long.
In thinking about my own life, I realize that I too have been tipping the scale towards my masculine energy. I am very practiced at taking action, making decisions, putting things into motion and crossing things off my list. I am really good at getting it done and even better at pushing myself and others for the sake of achievement. However, what has been emerging in me in recent years is this glorious energy of allowing of what is. It is a gentle and slow movement so I can appreciate the process as much as or even more than the product. It is an unconditional and judgement free love for myself and others. It has been life changing and so very beautiful to embody.
Those moments when I speak with gentleness, when I compassionately respond to tears, when I am open to being a safe harbor for others, I am embodying the feminine. When I come up with a creative idea or “go with the flow” of the day, I am embodying the feminine. When I watch my husband hold space while my daughters work out a conflict, I know I am a witness to the power of the feminine.
Knowing that the divine union of masculine and feminine is awakening on our planet helps me to stay centered while the world around me shakes and sheds its old ways. Staying focused on keeping that divine balance of masculine doing and feminine being within myself is my heart’s desire. Together, one person at a time, we are creating a worldwide evolution. And so it is.